长短处

白玉无瑕的故事我们耳熟能详，但是生活中的我们大多数都是瑕瑜互见的。一个人身上会有很多的长处，也同时会存在着很多的短处，因此我们需要用辩证的态度看待长处和短处。

在这个世界上，存在着一些人，他们的短处要远远大于长处，但是瑕不掩瑜，因此我们不能只关注他们的短处，而忽略他们的优点。在大多数的时候，我们会习惯性拿别人的短处来对比他人的长处，对别人冷嘲热讽。但是我们应该全面看待别人，迟有所长，寸有所短，每一个人各自有着长处，也各自有着短处，两者各有所取。当一个人总是拿自己的缺点对比别人的长处时，心里难免会产生自卑的心理，心里会自我的暗示:我比不过他，他有着太多的优点了。 有些时候，面对长处和短处，我们应该理智面对，应该全面看待事情，不能仅仅只看到长处或是短处。

记得曾今看到一则故事，说的大概是一位老师出去听公开课时的经历。这位老师是去旁听的是一节数学课。课上老师邀请孩子们上讲台计算数学题，黑板上写着五道题目，一个看上去有几分腼腆的小男孩上台答题，前四题都正确的，等写到第五题做完的时候，台下座位上的学生就议论纷纷，原来第五题做错了，小男孩自己也十分的懊恼，老师只是微笑的请男孩下去了。然后老师说了一些话让前去听课的老师都十分的赞叹不已:“最后一题错了，但是他前四题回答的非常完美，为什么同学们只看到他的错题而忽略了正确呢?”是的，我们常常会忽略别人的长处，就像这个故事一样。生活之中，一旦一个人犯了错误或是存在在莫一些不足的时候，我们似乎过多关注与他人的短处，似乎别人的所有的长处都被掩盖掉了。

因此，我们不能只是片面看待别人某一个短处或是长处。比如说人们常常赞扬与诸葛亮的聪明才智和忠心耿耿，但是却常常会忽略掉他用人上的失误以及对于人才的束缚呢?而后来的马谡失街亭只不过是诸葛亮的短处导致的后果之一罢了。世间的功过参半，好坏也应该一分为二，对于长处和短处的看待也应该一分为二的看待。

如果大家都可以静下心了认真细思长处和短处，就不会造成偏见和不满，也就不会有所谓的得失之心，每一个人都哥有所长，有各自的所取之处，也都各有千秋。因此对待事情不要妄自菲薄。

面对于他人的长处，我们可以借鉴学习，但是这一切是建立在我们可以实现的基础之上的，如果别人的长处在别人身上是好的，但是可能在自己身上就成为坏的，那为什么还是要去学习呢?因此学习也是需要结合自身的实际情况，从自身的角度出发看到自己的长处和短处。

英语翻译

We are familiar with the story of Baiyu Wuxia, but most of us in life have seen each other. There are many strengths and weaknesses in a person, so we need to look at the strengths and weaknesses in a dialectical manner.

In this world, there are some people whose shortcomings are far greater than their strengths, but they do not hide their weaknesses. Therefore, we cannot just focus on their shortcomings and ignore their strengths. Most of the time, we will habitually compare the strengths of others with the weaknesses of others, and ridicule others. But we should look at others in a comprehensive way, and each has its own strengths and weaknesses, and each has its own advantages. When a person always compares his own shortcomings to the strengths of others, he will inevitably have an inferiority complex in his heart, and he will hint to himself: I can't compare to him, he has too many advantages. Sometimes, in the face of strengths and weaknesses, we should face them rationally, and we should look at things in a comprehensive manner, not just seeing the strengths or weaknesses.

I remember that Zeng Jin saw a story about a teacher's experience when he went out to listen to a public class. This teacher is going to observe a math class. In class, the teacher invited the children to the podium to calculate the math problems. Five questions were written on the blackboard. A shy-looking little boy took the stage to answer the questions. The first four questions are correct, and the fifth question is finished. At that time, the students in the seats in the audience were talking about it. It turned out that the fifth question was wrong. The little boy himself was very upset. The teacher just smiled and asked the boy to go down. Then the teacher said something so that the teachers who went to the class were very amazed: "The last question was wrong, but his answer to the first four questions was perfect. Why did the students only see his wrong questions and ignore the correct ones? ?" Yes, we often ignore the strengths of others, just like this story. In life, once a person makes a mistake or has some shortcomings, we seem to pay too much attention to the shortcomings of others, and it seems that all the strengths of others are covered up.

Therefore, we can't just look at someone's shortcomings or strengths one-sidedly. For example, people often praise Zhuge Liang for his intelligence and loyalty, but they often ignore his mistakes in the use of people and the restraint of talents? And the loss of the street pavilion by Ma Di was only one of the consequences of Zhuge Liang's shortcomings. That's it. The merits and demerits in the world are mixed, good and bad should be divided into two, and the strengths and weaknesses should also be viewed in two.

If everyone can calm down and carefully consider their strengths and weaknesses, there will be no prejudice and dissatisfaction, and there will be no so-called gains and losses. Everyone has his own strengths and his own advantages. Each has its own merits. So don't underestimate yourself in dealing with things.

We can learn from the strengths of others, but all of this is based on what we can achieve. If the strengths of others are good for others, but they may become bad for ourselves, why is it still What about learning? Therefore, learning also needs to integrate one's own actual situation and see one's strengths and weaknesses from one's own point of view.