请领导吃饭有艺术

举个例子来说。有一位入职五年的员工这么多年来没有得到领导的提拔重用。

有朋友劝他可以跟领导拉近关系，毕竟任何提升提拔都有一定的熟人效应，请客吃饭可以是一种交流的载体，能让领导更亲近的了解你。对于领导而言也可以从饭局当中了解你的个人。

这位员工听从了朋友的建议后立刻起身来到领导办公室，直接贸然的问领导您有空吗？我想请您吃饭。领导微微一笑表示这段时间比较忙，等有空再说。

员工的热情一下子被浇灭，手足无措，后期越想越不对劲开始跟领导置气，想着以后再也不会去请他吃饭了。过了一段时间后，领导发现这位员工再也没有过来请自己吃饭，果然还是不太上道。

首先，我们必须要知道请客吃饭并不是一件特别容易的事情。无论公事还是私事他都是技术活，需要用到以下十步法。

第一步是提前预约

在饭桌上的规矩不比职场上的少，日常生活中任何见面场合都需要预约，哪怕请客吃饭也是如此，毕竟大家有空的时间不一定是一样的。

作为请客邀请方更应该尊重别人的时间，而不是迁就自己的时间。首先，预约领导吃饭得考虑自己是否有充足的余地，毕竟领导刚好说今天没空，明天没空，得下周才有空，但刚好你又安排了重要事务，你总不能回答说你那天刚好有事吧？

所以请客吃饭预约的时间需要迁就客人。作为下属请上级吃饭要把握以下四个环节。第一个是观察领导最近的心情和状态回避不好的心情。第二个是了解领导近期是否有比较紧急的任务。第三个是挑选合适的就餐地区，预订包间，第四个是预留一周的请客时间。

如果在跟领导预约的时候他拒绝了也不要灰心，而是上去再游说一番，希望领导再忙也要注重劳逸结合。

第二步是想好陪客名单

饭局可不是一般的吃饭这么简单。作为下属在请客人员分配上也要注重，这也是决定领导是否会前来的前提。如果有条件可以邀请与客人身份相当的朋友作为陪客，当然也需要他们去尊重客人，这种场合最害怕喧宾夺主。

第三步是向领导沟通邀请陪客人员

首先，领导一定是答应了你的请客邀请。第一件事就是介绍来客名单，比如说想请几位同学朋友一起陪同，毕竟自己酒量不太行，以这个方式来请示领导，看看他是否有需要邀请的人员。

因为你找了朋友来当陪客是需要提前跟领导说明的，如果领导去到饭桌才发现一。不认识的人是非常不礼貌，也是非常不恰当的，这种时候根本起不到拉近关系的作用。

告诉领导也是为了知道邀请的人员中是否有领导讨厌的人，如果不提前沟通好，会闹得不愉快。

第四步是精心挑选饭店

请客吃饭，挑选饭店的地理位置、交通以及菜品和消费档次等等都非常重要。切记不要让领导订饭店，原则上应当把请客的主动权掌握在自己手里，领导订饭店反而极有可能超出你的消费能力，买单的时候就容易左右为难。

第五步是提前踩点

你预订的饭店如果是以前去过的就不用担心，如果是新的饭店并且还是你所安排的饭局，那么踩点这一步就显得特别重要。所以提前去到饭店感受一下消费比标准以及菜单，酒水等等，至少心里会有数。

第六步是自带茶叶

首先我们都知道饭店的茶水是比较昂贵的，免费的茶水又不上档次。自己带两包名贵茶叶是最适合的。一般自带茶叶也有讲究，不要携带铁观音，茉莉香之类，最好携带绿茶，普洱茶一类的。

第七步是自带酒水

现在很多饭局都允许自带酒水，酒水已经成为一种文化习惯。饭店里的酒水可能没有自己喜欢的种类或者价格昂贵，这时候就不要充当冤大头了，自带酒水也要保证安全健康，档次稍微高一点会更能体现待客热情。

邀请北方的客人可以带白酒，大点的饭局白酒和红酒是最合适的。邀请南方客人可以带黄酒，根据不同情况进行选择。酒品的档次也非常重要。请客吃饭跟朋友间的日常小聚是不能划等号的。挑选白酒时要注意挑选纯粮食酿造的。总体而言纯粮白酒不伤胃也没有其他不良反应。

第八步是善于点菜

点菜也可以分成两种，一种是正规的订餐标，参照宴请标准来设立。另一种是请客人点菜，这样能够更好地满足客人的口味和尊重客人。

第九步是把控酒场上的局面

如果自己刚好特别能喝酒就可以担当起气氛组这一责任。如果领导特别能喝酒一定要请几位能够一起陪同喝酒的朋友。

第十步是做好收尾工作

这一步骤做好了能够起到画龙点睛的功效。总体来说把握五个原则，第一个是提前结账，基本是在服务员上菜的时候找个空档把单买了，不然最后送客的时候被服务员拦住就特尴尬。

第二个是切记在客人面前买单，显得非常没有格局，也是一种非常不礼貌的行为。

第三个是提前准备小礼物，虽然这个环节可有可无，但如果有的话会是一个加分项。

第四个是提前安排车辆送客，这是一个非常细节的行为，即便领导最后没有坐你的车但是你的礼节也表达到位了。

第五个是确认领导安全，预估到家时间可以询问是否平安到家，这是一种非常礼貌的行为，这个环节也是必不可少的。

小结

总的而言，这十步法在饭桌上是非常有用的，也能避免职场新人在饭桌上的尴尬。

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For example. There is an employee who has been employed for five years and has not been promoted and reused by the leadership for so many years.

A friend advised him to get closer to the leader. After all, any promotion has a certain acquaintance effect. Treating guests to dinner can be a carrier of communication, allowing the leader to get to know you more closely. For leaders, you can also get to know you personally from the dinner.

After listening to his friend's suggestion, the employee immediately got up and went to the leadership's office, and rashly asked the leader if you are free? I want to invite you to dinner. The leader smiled slightly and said that this time is relatively busy, and I will talk about it when I have time.

The enthusiasm of the staff was suddenly extinguished, and they were at a loss. Later, the more they thought about it, the more wrong they started to get angry with the leader, thinking that they would never invite him to dinner in the future. After a period of time, the leader found that the employee never came over to invite him to dinner, and he was still not very good.

First of all, we must know that entertaining guests is not an easy task. Whether it is public or private, he is a technical work and needs to use the following ten steps.

The first step is to book in advance

The rules at the dinner table are no less than those in the workplace. Any meeting in daily life requires an appointment, even if you invite guests to dinner. After all, everyone’s free time is not necessarily the same.

As an inviter, you should respect other people's time, not your own time. First of all, when making an appointment for a meal, you must consider whether you have enough room. After all, the leader just said that he is not free today, tomorrow is not free, and he has to be free next week, but you have arranged important affairs again, and you can’t answer that you just happened to be that day. Is something wrong?

Therefore, the time of the dinner reservation needs to be accommodated to the guests. As a subordinate to invite a superior to eat, you should grasp the following four aspects. The first is to observe the leader's recent mood and state to avoid bad mood. The second is to find out if the leader has urgent tasks in the near future. The third is to choose a suitable dining area and reserve a private room, and the fourth is to reserve a week for guests.

If he refuses to make an appointment with the leader, don't be discouraged, but go up and lobby again, hoping that the leader will pay attention to the combination of work and rest no matter how busy he is.

The second step is to come up with a list of accompany guests

Dinner is not as simple as ordinary meals. As a subordinate, you should also pay attention to the allocation of guests, which is also the premise to decide whether the leader will come. If conditions permit, you can invite friends who are equivalent to the guests as accompany guests, of course, they also need to respect the guests. This kind of occasion is most afraid of overpowering the guest.

The third step is to communicate with the leader and invite the guests to accompany the guests

First of all, the leader must have agreed to your invitation. The first thing is to introduce the guest list. For example, I want to invite a few classmates and friends to accompany me. After all, I am not very good at drinking, so I use this method to ask the leader for instructions to see if he has anyone who needs to be invited.

Because if you find a friend to accompany you, you need to explain it to the leader in advance. If the leader goes to the dinner table, he only finds one. It is very impolite and inappropriate for people you don't know. At this time, it can't bring the relationship closer.

Telling the leader is also to know whether there are people whom the leader hates among the invited people. If you don't communicate well in advance, it will be unpleasant.

The fourth step is to carefully select the hotel

It is very important to choose the location, transportation, dishes and consumption grades of the restaurant to invite guests to dinner. Remember not to let the leader book the restaurant. In principle, you should take the initiative to treat guests in your own hands. On the contrary, the leader's reservation of the restaurant is very likely to exceed your spending power, and it is easy to be in a dilemma when paying the bill.

The fifth step is to step in in advance

Don't worry if the hotel you booked is a previous one. If it's a new hotel and it's the meal you've arranged, it's especially important to step on this step. So go to the restaurant in advance to feel the consumption ratio standard, menu, drinks, etc., at least you will know.

The sixth step is to bring your own tea

First of all, we all know that the tea in the restaurant is relatively expensive, and the free tea is not up to the grade. It is best to bring two bags of precious tea leaves. Generally, it is also important to bring your own tea, do not bring Tieguanyin, jasmine, etc., it is best to bring green tea, Pu'er tea and the like.

The seventh step is to bring your own drink

Many restaurants are now allowed to bring their own drinks, and drinks have become a cultural habit. The drinks in the restaurant may not have the type you like or are expensive. At this time, don't take advantage of them. Bring your own drinks to ensure safety and health. A slightly higher grade will better reflect the hospitality of the guests.

Inviting guests from the north can bring white wine, and white wine and red wine are the most suitable for larger meals. Invited southern guests can bring rice wine and choose according to different situations. The grade of wine is also very important. Treating guests to dinner is not the same as having a daily get-together with friends. When choosing liquor, pay attention to the selection of pure grain brewing. In general, pure grain liquor does not hurt the stomach and has no other adverse reactions.

The eighth step is to be good at ordering

Ordering can also be divided into two types, one is the formal ordering standard, which is established with reference to the banquet standard. The other is to ask the guests to order, which can better satisfy the guests' tastes and respect the guests.

The ninth step is to control the situation on the wine field

If you happen to be particularly good at drinking, you can take on the responsibility of the atmosphere group. If the leader is especially good at drinking, he must invite a few friends who can accompany him to drink.

The tenth step is to do the finishing touches

Doing this step can be the finishing touch. Generally speaking, there are five principles to follow. The first is to check out early. Basically, when the waiter is serving the food, find a space to buy the order. Otherwise, it will be very embarrassing to be stopped by the waiter when the customer is finally delivered.

The second is to remember to pay the bill in front of the guests, which is very unstructured and a very rude behavior.

The third is to prepare small gifts in advance. Although this link is optional, if there is, it will be a plus.

The fourth is arranging vehicles to send passengers off in advance. This is a very detailed behavior. Even if the leader did not take your car in the end, your etiquette was also expressed.

The fifth is to confirm the safety of the leader. You can ask if you have arrived home safely when you estimate the time to arrive home. This is a very polite behavior, and this link is also essential.

summary

All in all, these ten steps are very useful at the dinner table, and can also avoid the embarrassment of newcomers at the dinner table.

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